A milking stanchion seemed in order, with a board in place to protect me from flying hooves. I was in the barn for at least 5 hours while she watched me work.
I finally got her to walk on the platform but it took lots of coaxing and she still wasn't open to sharing. I milked her a little here and there the rest of that afternoon and again today (not in the stanchion) and she no longer kicks but she keeps moving her udder away from me. She'd let me massage it or wash it as long as I like but after I stole about 1/4 cup she'd walk away . It's hard to believe this animal who is so cute can be so stingy. I can be patient though. I know she's still nervous and everything is new to her. I need to get a halter on her but so far she's not having that either.
She was much quieter and relaxed today and went out to graze instead of sticking close to her barn. She and the donkeys were very interested in each other.
Maybe tomorrow she'll be desperate for relief and will let me milk her. We'll get there.